Thank you to all the fathers, dads, батько,отец,txiv, and daddios out there for all that you're doing to shape Spokane’s future. Your time, positive attention, listening and gentle guidance helping your child(ren) problem-solve, play, trust, share, identify feelings, build skills and more will have lasting, positive effects.

Whether you are fathering your own children or have also taken on the role of fathering other children who may not have a father in their daily lives, your presence is important.

Research shows that positive attention from parents and other caring adults increases the likelihood of a child succeeding socially, academically and developing high self-esteem. It is critical for children to know that they are unique; that they are encouraged to do their best and supported when they fail.

Being a dad or caring adult figure is a BIG job and can feel overwhelming. Having the responsibility for shaping a child’s life is scary - especially if you did not have a great role model growing up. Take comfort in knowing that a “perfect parent” does not exist. Every parent makes mistakes.

When you recognize that you could have handled a situation with the child you care for in a better way, be honest about it and apologize. This small act has a large impact on children; it demonstrates that mistakes are normal and are an opportunity to learn. Thankfully, children love those that care about them, flaws and all.

The smallest moments together often make the biggest memories. Daily occurrences can bring you closer together and create a sense of belonging for both you and your child, such as:

• Reading bedtime stories
• Eating meals together with a focus on talking
• Playing board and video games
• Taking neighborhood walks
• Being silly
• Doing something nice for someone else together,
• Asking questions about your child’s day and telling them about yours
• Learning about and exploring your child’s interests

Communities need to support dads too! Opportunities for meeting other dads and learning new skills should be widely available. Locally, the Spokane Fatherhood Initiative provides a supportive place for dads to connect to each other and share the joys and challenges of parenting. Spokane Fatherhood Initiative staff also advocate alongside dads who are navigating the family law system and want to be a presence in their child’s life. More information can be found here.

If you know of a family that is struggling, offer to help. If you don’t know where to begin, please visit Project Pinwheel to learn about resources and ways you can become involved and have a lasting, positive impact on the life of a child and our community.